Are you an introvert?

by Reedz on August 23, 2014

Do you prefer your own company sometimes? Away from the madding crowd? Do you consider your personal space sacred? Chances are, like me, you’re an introvert.

Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to “recharge.”

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Here are five signs a person is an introvert. I found myself nodding to all five…

Graphic designer Schroeder Jones has come up with an easy-to-understand guide to getting to know introverts.

Introverts are all around and perhaps, understanding how they tick will make for lasting friendships with people that seem shy and quiet at first.

Remember that not everyone who is interesting or worth getting to know, has to be chatty or overtly friendly.



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